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by Rachel Resnick

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ISBN:
1596914947
ISBN13:
978-1596914940
Author:
Rachel Resnick
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Bloomsbury USA (November 11, 2008)
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256 pages
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1948 kb
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Rachel Resnick's exploration of love addiction opens with a traumatic moment in her life when she finally hits bottom. So begins Resnick's tale Love Junkie: A Memoir, a chronicle of how and why she arrived at this place.

Rachel Resnick's exploration of love addiction opens with a traumatic moment in her life when she finally hits bottom And then she comes home to find that someone has drenched her computer's hard drive - her priceless possession where all of her work is stored. The child of divorced parents, she is subjected to numerous moments of neglect and even abandonment.

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Rachel Resnick hits her forties single, broke, depressed, and childless. Looking back over years of failed relationships, she identifies a lifelong addiction to love-an addiction to the unfulfilled fantasy of romantic bliss, marriage, and family, and to a string of sexual relationships that only carry her farther from that dream. A groundbreaking, compulsively readable memoir, Love Junkie charts Resnick's path from destructive love to intimacy, from despair to hope, and cracks open one of our more elusive and pervasive modern-day addictions.

Love Junkie is the story of Rachel Resnick's dangerous addiction to sex and love. It is a groundbreaking and compulsively readable memoir that cracks open one of the more elusive and pervasive addictions of our time

Love Junkie is the story of Rachel Resnick's dangerous addiction to sex and love. It is a groundbreaking and compulsively readable memoir that cracks open one of the more elusive and pervasive addictions of our time. Biographies & Memoirs.

Rachel Resnick is a self-confessed Love Junkie. Her life has consisted of a continuous stream of men, all of whom have treated her badly, and yet she chose them and has convinced herself that she cannot live without them. Obsessive and possessive, she allows herself to be humiliated and degraded in her pursuit of love. Finding herself single, broke, depressed and childless, Rachel is determined to break the cycle. But to do this, she has to face the troubled past that she has been trying desperately to escape.

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Love Junkie charts Rachel Resnick's harrowing amotional journey from addiction to intimacy, from despair .

Love Junkie charts Rachel Resnick's harrowing amotional journey from addiction to intimacy, from despair to hope, and the men - the worst kind of men - who accompanied her on it.

Rachel Resnick hits her forties single, broke, depressed, childless―a train wreck. After an ex-boyfriend breaks into her home and vandalizes it, Resnick takes the time to look back over her romantic and sexual history to ask the question: What is wrong with me? Her addiction to sex and love has cost her in damaging ways throughout the course of her life. At the root of her issues: a Dickensian childhood and a haunting experience she must finally confront.

Written with raw humor and unflinching honesty, Love Junkie charts Rachel Resnick's harrowing emotional journey from destructive love to intimacy, from despair to hope. By peeling back one painful layer after another, she discovers a glaring pattern: She is addicted to the fantasy of romantic bliss, marriage, and children.

Although her story is an extreme one, what we realize over the course of Resnick's journey is how many people experience aspects of this addiction and the self-destruction that comes with it―all fed by a culture where romantic obsession is stoked by the stories we read, the movies we see, and the dreams we're fed. This unique memoir cracks open one of the more elusive and pervasive modern-day compulsions―and holds a mirror up to each of us.

Reviews:
  • Syleazahad
Excellent and horrifying and a great ride knowing I wasn't the one having to go through it. I read a lot of memoirs and I was impressed with this author's ability to put her fears and faults on the page, how vulnerable she made herself in her disclosure. Is this a "confessional" story? No. To say it is would be to reduce the power the story teller has harnessed. The arc is clear, the characters realized, and the writing is masterful in its clarity, simplicity, and beauty. This is one of those stories that changes people for the better.
  • Gozragore
I work with a large number of people who struggle with a pattern of staying in hurtful relationships. They believe they "must be attracted to losers." Some people call themselves "loser magnets." Resnick's powerful, brave, and well written memoir tells it like it is. She details specific thoughts and patterns of thought that serve the purpose of giving herself permission to stay with someone who has hurt her. Someone who has insulted her, degraded her, belittled her, called her names (Spencer yelling, "Hey Tits!" from the kitchen at a dinner party), cheated on her, kept important secrets from her, or coerced her into doing something sexually objectionable. She tells about her own severely painful childhood experiences with emotionally abusive and neglecting parents, much in the way someone has flashbacks in the midst of experiencing or recalling unpleasant relationship events. Some people might not like the back and forth between her adult and child experiences but I found it consistent with the way most people convey their stories in therapy. I will be recommending this book. I will also be using it for insights into some of the specific thoughts, feelings and triggers that lead to a person remaining in harms way. For illustrating the simple fact that "you are not alone." And as a hopeful step toward recovery. Thank you, Ms. Resnick, for sharing your incredible story with us.
  • ladushka
Rachel Resnick's exploration of love addiction opens with a traumatic moment in her life when she finally hits bottom. Already at a low point, her financial resources strapped, she is barely hanging on...And then she comes home to find that someone has drenched her computer's hard drive - her priceless possession where all of her work is stored. She describes the computer as "a living extension of my brain, an expression of my soul, a museum of my fragmented life..." This clearly demonstrates the devastation wrought by a former lover, bent on revenge.

So begins Resnick's tale Love Junkie: A Memoir, a chronicle of how and why she arrived at this place.

The child of divorced parents, she is subjected to numerous moments of neglect and even abandonment. At one point, she describes images of her father always walking away...Those images represent their relationship, one in which she never found the approval and acceptance she craved. Each parent, with his/her own limitations and lack of emotional availability,
created in her a vast emptiness - indeed deep emotional scars and pain, feelings she sought to recreate in every relationship she entered for the next several years.

Her mother dies when she is fourteen. At that point, she hasn't lived with her mother in a few years...Supposedly placed with her father, she is shifted from one living arrangement to another, always seeking a feeling of acceptance, even safety, which constantly eludes her. So the abandonment continued, on a different level.

As she seeks to understand the source of her own complicity in bringing her to this lowest point in her life, Resnick begins at the beginning. Alternating with descriptions of moments in her childhood that are key elements in understanding her journey and why she has arrived at this place, she also describes each adult relationship in some detail, pinpointing the degradation and humiliation of always seeking out the dangerous, unavailable partners who could, somehow, recreate the emotional upheaval with which she is so familiar. She pushes the boundaries with each new relationship, as if hoping to fill the void, yet always reverting to familiar patterns that leave her abandoned and bereft.

Sometimes these explorations are almost too gritty for the reader to accept, but when examining the sources, indeed the etiology of her behavioral choices, it is perfectly clear how and why each step is taken. The reader almost expresses that "a-ha!" moment, as the familiar patterns are recreated.

Most illuminating, finally, is the path to recovery. Brilliantly described and authentically explored, with 12-step meetings at the beginning of her journey to emotional well-being, the author demonstrates how the path is uneven, with occasional slips; she also reveals that with
determination, healing can happen. Her memoir, with all of her angst exposed, is a brave and triumphant declaration of the power of the human spirit.

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  • shustrik
There were parts in this book where I swear the author peeped my own life. I get it, I related to her pain and tragic situations completely. It was funny in a sad kind of way, and serious when it needed to be. I thought I was the weakest woman in the world in terms of relationships, and that nobody "dated" men with such agression as I did. I am glad that I am not alone in this cycle of ridiculousness. Although I am over it now, this book allowed me to forgive myself for all the drama I put myself thru in the past.
It's brutally honest, smart, and well-written.
Highly recommend...
  • Abuseyourdna
I was glad the book was reasonably short, because I really did have to finish it in one long reading. It's really cutting in some areas. You can hear her pain. Many of us can probably see ourselves in her -- the pathetic "want to be wanted" refrain. What would we do to be wanted? What of ourselves do we sacrifice? Resnick doesn't so much have answers as reflections, based in her own experiences. I want to have coffee with her, and that's not something I'd say about most authors, even those whose work I like and respect.
  • Chi
I was skeptical about this book- the paperback version of this book has a hot pink cover with a feminine-looking font. I was pleasantly surprised, however, that this book is NOT chick lit. This book describes the author's struggle with love and sex addiction; her intense sexual relationships are laid out in graphic detail. I have no personal experience with this type of addiction yet felt I learned a great deal from this book, as the author does a fantastic of "showing" the addiction rather than merely "telling." Recommended!