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by Patrick Carnes Ph.D.,Elizabeth Griffin M.A.,Joseph Moriarity,David L. Delmonico Ph.D.

In the Shadows of the Net: Breaking Free of Compulsive Online Sexual Behavior download ebook
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1592851495
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978-1592851492
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Patrick Carnes Ph.D.,Elizabeth Griffin M.A.,Joseph Moriarity,David L. Delmonico Ph.D.
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Hazelden; 1 edition (February 24, 2004)
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256 pages
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Carnes is a nationally known speaker and writer on addition and recovery. Carnes lives in Wickenburg, Arizona. is an assistant professor in the department of counseling, psychology, and special education at Duquesne University in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania. Elizabeth griffin, . Griffin lives in Saint Louis Park, Minnesota.

Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction. Patrick J Carnes P. Carnes tells how to distinguish the recreational user of online porn from the compulsive user who finds it difficult, if not impossible, to control the use of the Internet for sexual activities. He estimates that there are about 20 million people in the latter category. I imagine that pornography has been around in some form since humans learned to draw pictures. Although some people had life-ruining pornography addictions before the advent of the Internet, the problem has exploded in recent years.

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Hours ago he tucked his children into bed and said good night to his wife, retreating to the computer to "finish up some work. Although his late night ritual leaves Kevin ashamed and exhausted, he is too embarassed and guild-ridden to seek help. He tells himself that no one would understand anyway. Destroyed marriages, career loss, and financial ruin.

Elizabeth Griffin, Joseph M. Moriarty, Patrick Carnes, David Delmonico. We operate an addictin treatment center and this book works really well in the treatment of people addicted to porn. Наиболее популярные в Научная литература. Lc Classification Number.

Patrick Carnes, Patrick J Carnes, David L Delmonico. Hours ago he tucked his children into bed and said good night to his wife, retreating to the computer to "finish up some work.

Patrick J. Carnes, P. is an internationally known authority and speaker on addiction and recovery issues

Patrick J. is an internationally known authority and speaker on addiction and recovery issues. He has authored over twenty books including the bestselling titles Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction, Facing the Shadow, Betrayal Bond, Don’t Call It Love, A Gentle Path Through the Twelve Steps and The Gentle Path through the Twelve Principles. is an internationally known authority and speaker on addiction and recovery issues

He is currently the executive director of the Gentle Path program and Pine Grove Behavioral Center in Hattiesburg, Mississippi. Carnes is also the chief executive officer of New Freedom Corporation and New Freedom Publications in Carefree, Arizona. David Delmonico, P. is an associate professor in the department of counseling, psychology, and special education at Duquesne University in Pittsburgh.

It's 3:30 a.m. and Kevin is still online, absorbed in pornographic images flashing across his computer screen, and searching for more. Hours ago he tucked his children into bed and said good night to his wife, retreating to the computer to "finish up some work." Although his late night ritual leaves Kevin ashamed and exhausted, he is too embarassed and guild-ridden to seek help. He tells himself that no one would understand anyway.

Anonymous and accessible, the Internet offers an alluring arena for compulsive sexual behavior. Destroyed marriages, career loss, and financial ruin are common outcomes. Revealing how desperate life can become for someone addicted to online sex, In the Shadows of the Net brings hope and healing to mena dn women struggling to understand and overcome this compulsive behavior. Drawing on their collective clinical expertise as well as current research, the authors equip readers with specific strategies for recognizing and recovering from compulsive online sexual behavior.

"A valuable road map for understanding and healing cybersex addictions." Windy Maltz, M.S.W., author, The Sexual Healing Journey, and coauthor, Private Thoughts

"In the Shadows of the Net shines a hopeful light on the dark side of cyberspace. It is certain to become a valued resource in dealing with a new frontier of addictive disorders.Kenneth M. Adams, Ph.D., Clinical Psychologist, and author Silently Seduced

"The authors Present a positive and effective approach to dealing with cybersex, a rapidsly increasing problem. In the Shadows of the Net is sure to become a classic in its field." Gary Blanchard, B.A., A.A.C., Addiction Counselor, and author, The Positive Path of Recovery

"Very powerful. In the Shadows of the Net comes at a time when the need is great for understanding and exploring cybersex treatment possibiliites. Today Internet pornography is more powerful than Viagra for many persons. I shall definitely recommend this book to my patients." Ralph H. Earle, M.Div., Ph.D., Prseident, Psychological Counseling Services, Ltd., coauthor, Lonely All the Time.

Reviews:
  • Perongafa
Prior to reading any of Carnes' books, it is absolutely imperative that wives read the book "Your Sexually Addicted Spouse" by Dr. Barbara Steffens, who, UNlike Carnes, actually DID the SCIENTIFIC research proving that betrayed wives are TRAUMA victims (Complex Betrayal Trauma/C-PTSD) of this addictive system inflicted upon her at no fault of her own, and are NOT coaddicts-codependents as Carnes teaches (and nor are they Intimacy Anorexics or Reactive Intimacy Anorexics as author Doug Weiss purports). Carnes DID do scientific research on sex addicts and that is why he has a strong understanding of sex addiction. But he has ZERO understanding of traumatized, betrayed wives and thus it is imperative that all that he writes in any his books about the wife needs to be completely ignored - believing what he (himself a recovering sex addict) wrote about wives only brings even more severe harm and trauma to the already abused wife - yes, sex addiction in married men IS that of domestic violence toward both their wives and their children. Always remember that sex addiction is PRIMARILY that of a "drug" addiction - addicted to generating one's own sex neurochemistry.
  • Akinozuru
There is controversy over where the line is between erotica and pornography. The word "pornography" is derived from two Greek words meaning "prostitute" and "writing." "Erotica" is derived from the Greek word "eros," meaning romantic and sexual love. There are gray areas, but generally pornography is considered to involve behavior that is degrading to one or more of the participants, behavior that most people would not engage in unless they were paid, coerced, or forced to do so.

The difference between the person who occasionally enjoys erotica and the person who is addicted to pornography is like the difference between the moderate drinker and the alcoholic. Pornography addicts find themselves unable to moderate their use to the point where jobs and marriages are lost. While some sex therapists recommend the use of erotica to revive a couple's sex life, I have already encountered two people who got so addicted to pornography that they stopped having sex with their partners. In both cases the partners were reasonably attractive and receptive.

Carnes explains that pornography addicts are trying to recapture the intoxication of young love. Just as the heroin addict develops a tolerance to the drug and keeps increasing the dosage chasing the euphoria of the initial experience, the pornography addict finds an escalating need of more and more time online to reach the same high.

Carnes tells how to distinguish the recreational user of online porn from the compulsive user who finds it difficult, if not impossible, to control the use of the Internet for sexual activities. He estimates that there are about 20 million people in the latter category.

I imagine that pornography has been around in some form since humans learned to draw pictures. Although some people had life-ruining pornography addictions before the advent of the Internet, the problem has exploded in recent years. "As one Stanford researcher....observed, there are now people struggling with sexual compulsivity who never would have been if not for the internet, " notes Carnes in the preface to the 2001 edition of his book Out of the Shadows, and 40 per cent of these new addicts are women.

Besides providing an almost infinite source of sexual pictures and videos, the Internet makes possible real time virtual sex through the use of video chat. Users sometimes progress to actually meeting the people with whom they have been interacting online.

Carnes is empathetic to those struggling with pornography and sex addiction and offers theories as to why some are so vulnerable to it. Carnes is the director of Gentle Path, the treatment center where Tiger Woods was recently treated. He explains what kinds of individual and group treatment he has found helpful, and talks about options for partners of these addicts.
  • Enila
If you are looking for a book about pornography that is written from a psychologist’s point of view and is devoid of religious references, a good choice is In the Shadows of the Net. One of the things I like about this book is that it discusses “problematic online sexual behavior” (p. 25) instead of using words that can side track the reader like ‘addiction’ or ‘compulsion.’ They have a very useful self-administered survey to measure one’s degree of problematic sexual behavior, which can help a person determine the degree to which their pornography use is problematic. They discuss addiction and compulsion, but enter the topic from a less diagnostic point of view. It has a great balance between wisdom, advice, practical surveys and diagnostic tools. Though it isn’t heavy on academic references, scholars wrote the book in an intelligent way. If you are looking for a good secular book that can help you identify and find your way out of pornography, or you are looking to help others do so, this is the one I recommend.
  • Mezilabar
A good book on handling cybersex and pornography problems on the Internet. It is fair in that it acknowledges the problems in having the Internet available so much, but also acknowledges that the Internet is so important in today's society that simply swearing off of it would be a rash move.

Instead the book suggests the 12-step method of changing your behavior, finding a sponsor - non-family to talk to about your problem, changing your computer habits to limit your privacy online, and working on your in-person live relationships so you don't need to find emotional fulfillment on the Internet alone.

The book was written in 2000, and revised in 2007, so some parts feel a little out of date in 2015 (the appendix still lists cassette tapes to listen to). However people are still the same, same problems, and the advice still rings valid.
  • Onaxan
It’s a bit dated with statistics but it gives a pretty overall understanding of what’s happening to our loved ones.
  • Atineda
This book is scary in how it tracks the evolution of compulsive behavior and how insidious it is. I knew I had a problem when I began reading the book, and could identify with several of the examples given. If you are honest enough to believe you have a problem with sexual addiction, you need to get this book, study this book and work with a professional counselor. It does show you that there is hope.